Wednesday, May 11, 2005
Tooth #4My son's front tooth has been doing it's own thing for the past month. At first, we noticed it must be loose because one day it was crooked. For the last few weeks this front tooth is more noticeable, more pronounced. I've been following its progress, but generally, have not concerned myself about tooth #4. I've named it #4 because I'm hoping it will be my son's fourth baby tooth to depart from his mouth.
I mentioned my husband left on Saturday for a week work trip? All hell has broken loose (except this tooth!) and I consider this tooth thing high on my list. Why? Thank you for asking.
Yesterday, something happened at the school during recreation time. My son was playing near the slide, and this is where the story is murky, but something hit his chin and caused the top and bottom jaw to slam into each other. The result.. a bloody mess. That pesky tooth #4 was jetting out even more than usual and near the gum it was bloody. The school called. The teacher was concerned that tooth #4 was cracked or broken. .....It's a baby tooth. Do I really need to worry? ... I kept wondering when she was talking to me. I brushed off her concern thinking this tooth would fall out that night. It didn't.
My concern was raised this morning because the tooth hadn't fallen out and my son was miserable -- but he didn't want me to touch the tooth and he really didn't want to go to the dentist. He just sat at the breakfast table -- not wanting to eat and he kept making this sucking sound around his tooth.
Since it was Wednesday, my son had a half day at school. I picked him up at lunch and the teacher asked me what my plans are with the tooth. I told her I'd called the dentist, but he only had one time available all day and we just couldn't get to the dentist at that time.
In the afternoon I called my friend who is married to my dentist. She said that most likely, if I take my son to the dentist he will just pull the tooth out.
At dinner, I asked my son how school was today and he said the teacher was not happy that he disrupted the class with his sucking noises. He confided, in hushed tones, that he really did want the tooth out but didn't want me to hurt him. So I tried to get tooth #4 out. First I kind of pushed his mouth near the tooth. Nothing. Then I actually touched the tooth. Nothing. My son is wigging and moaning by this point. What am I doing wrong?? Finally, I actually used two fingers and tried to pinch the tooth out. It moved, but I couldn't pull #4 out. By this time my son is miserable. He's screaming. He's crying. It was terrible.
Eventually, my son calmed down. He's not happy he went though all that stress and I didn't even pull the tooth out! I'm calling the dentist again tomorrow and taking my son out of school if necessary.
I have so much respect for single parents. How do they do it? My husband is gone only for a week and I'm falling apart.
* Update: We went to the dentist this evening. An x-ray was taken. Tout va bien. Everything is fine. We can leave the tooth to come out on when it is ready. I can't tell you how relieved I am -- and so is my son. Thank you all for your comments of support. I really appreciated them!
-- said Auntie M in Paris
I have no idea how single parents do all that they do; they are amazing. I do think the children of single parents must be a wee-bit less fussy than the children of parents who have more time to lavish on them. I find ways of running out of time, patience and intelligence and being a mother is my only job (yes, yes, an important, difficult job, but just one all the same.)
# posted by Moms' Style : 10:54 PM
I know what it's like though, Auntie, believe me. I've been recruited to help pull my little brother's teeth (he's 9) It's kind of unnerving when you're dealing with someone else's mouth and they're moaning and squriming all over creation. I mean I knew I could take the pain, but I couldn't stand the sight of that.
Anyway, I'd definitely do what you're doing and get your son to the dentist pronto. I really wouldn't care if he missed school (I'm sure he's a bright young guy anyway!) If it's disturbing him so much he won't learn anyway!
I'm only the brother, but being the oldest one I've been able to share in the joy of helping out and it's sort of been at times like I'm a de facto parent. When my mother and stepfather aren't at home, and I'm the one that's left to make all these pressing decisions... I sort of get a feel of what it's like to be a parent. No head in the clouds outlook for me. I certainly know what I'll be getting into someday! (Perhaps that's why I'm not exactly rushing either...)
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# posted by The Complimenting Commenter : 4:26 AM
Good luck, I hope all ends well and it comes out painlessly.
# posted by BohemianMama : 4:44 AM
= Patience & time work better than force & rage.
In other words, WAIT for the tooth to fall by itself & let your son make his sucking noises, it gently helps the tooth get looser.
(an old hand at raising kids!)
# posted by Frania W. : 6:40 AM
# posted by : 7:32 AM
I definitely agree with Frania about patience and anger. (smile)
The French Social Security System has, of course, numbered each tooth in the mouth. Hence if you speak of your Tooth Number Four to the dentist, he/she might look at you strangely, since there's a good chance that Four is not Four, given the French nomenclature.
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# posted by Auntie M in Paris : 3:26 PM
# posted by mrsmogul : 3:38 PM
Joe, You sound like quite a character pulling out your own teeth! Bravo!
CC, How nice to be a complimenting commenter. Thanks for your visit. I needed the pep talk.
BM, It's a big fear for my husband and me... both of us had lots of teeth get pulled by the dentist. Our baby teeth never wanted to leave our mouths.
Frania, Thank you for the words of wisdom. As soon as the dentist says there is no damage to my son's permanent tooth or his gum I will gladly let my son walk around with his crooked tooth!
Louie, Wait till you see my son!
L'A, Very interesting. I'll try to remember to ask the dentist what number this tooth is for my own reference.
Flare, I know you are right, but in the interim.... I will check out your post, thanks!
Irene, All these small decisions really add up when the husband is out of town! I know you know.... thanks for your note. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. Good luck!
# posted by Auntie M in Paris : 3:40 PM
Funny what trouble they cause, isn't it? I remember being oh-so-ready for all the Little Tyke's teeth to come in, as that process caused much anguish and crying (and that was just me). Then, they've gotta come out - it's always something.
Thanks for dropping by.
# posted by jg : 5:11 PM
As for that tooth, pesky stuff teeth. I highly recommend visiting the dentist. In the meantime, maybe some ice on it with help numb the pain, though you're probably at the dentist's as I write this. Too bad you can't just run to the pharmacy and grab some anbersol. Good luck!
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